i do try to make a conscious effort not let my selfishness come at the expense of someone else's happiness, though, and (i hope!!) i've managed to a do a decent job there. but one place where i'm repeatedly reminded that i'm falling short of the Self I'd Like To Be is in thoughtfulness.
i want to be the kind of person who remembers your birthday, and also remembers that one time 3 months ago how you said you wanted to go to that new restaurant, so i make reservations for us as a birthday present. i want to be the kind of person who sees a book in a store that i know you'd like, so i pick it up for you. (i want to be the kind of person who knows what kind of book you'd like!) i want to be the kind of person who always sends real thank you cards in the mail.
basically, i want to be like my friend silvia. we meet up every few weeks for dinner, and at our last outing i couldn't stop gushing about how good my hands smelled after using the restaurant's mrs. meyer's soap. so at our last dinner, she brought me two bottles of mrs. meyer's for my very own. just because. (just because she's awesome, obviously.)
maybe that can be my 2012 resolution! i can never think of one in january, but this is something i'd really like to change about myself. 2012: the year of thoughtfulness.
any suggestions on how i can accomplish this?