tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post8248904144305245151..comments2024-01-01T03:49:58.702-05:00Comments on Alice's Wonderland: thoughtfulAlicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15287792370490363047noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-42741869266610662452011-11-17T20:08:25.338-05:002011-11-17T20:08:25.338-05:00Um. Whoops. this was supposed to be posted in the ...Um. Whoops. this was supposed to be posted in the post above this... hence the weirdness of me talking about salad when you're asking for advice about thoughtfulness....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-42986607864328271852011-11-17T20:06:45.256-05:002011-11-17T20:06:45.256-05:00My flattie discovered this coleslaw seared beef sa...My flattie discovered this coleslaw seared beef salad with peanuts and satay the other day. I pretty much eat it for breakfast, lunch, and dinner :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-2580892431460408832011-11-12T13:01:54.640-05:002011-11-12T13:01:54.640-05:00I'm super thoughtful, it's my follow-thru ...I'm super thoughtful, it's my follow-thru that blows goats!!!Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10120774715331922926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-53320239301105900022011-11-12T05:14:37.116-05:002011-11-12T05:14:37.116-05:00This is a great resolution!This is a great resolution!Deidrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14993934232617420348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-9542014325466840512011-11-11T22:42:37.222-05:002011-11-11T22:42:37.222-05:00I am like you (kinda selfish) and I don't even...I am like you (kinda selfish) and I don't even wish to be thoughtful. How selfifh of me.<br /><br />I, for one, think you come across as very thoughtful though. I mean you were so seriously going to put me in your suitcase for Sri Lanka. (Right??)Nik-Nakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14776544256283026910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-1761224303537352422011-11-11T19:51:18.623-05:002011-11-11T19:51:18.623-05:00I used to be so good about birthday cards... and I...I used to be so good about birthday cards... and I'm not sure if I've become more self-centered or scatterbrained... I'm afraid it's the former. <br /><br />I do buy cards in advance (including belated birthday cards, to have on hand for the inevitable) and Google Calendar was my friend last year. Since we moved, though, I haven't been using it -- probably because my teenager and my husband both have google accounts and I get tired of having to log in all the time! (Add lazy to self-centered apparently)<br /><br />As far as gifts, some people, like your friend Silvia, have gifts as their "love language" (remember that whole Gary Chapman thing a few months ago?) and it simply comes naturally to her. My SIL is like that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-65242694439199224032011-11-11T15:43:56.675-05:002011-11-11T15:43:56.675-05:00I try really, really hard to be thoughtful. I hope...I try really, really hard to be thoughtful. I hope people think I am! It's nice when someone remembers something you said in passing or sends you a just because kind of card. <br /><br />I tend to put everyone's birthdays in my calendar with a recurrence so I don't have to remember from year to year to put them in. I can't always afford gifts but I think a call or a card makes a big impact.Sizzlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00182860438430294750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-47120575391299616802011-11-11T10:25:13.858-05:002011-11-11T10:25:13.858-05:00I forgot to say, that sometimes, it's not that...I forgot to say, that sometimes, it's not that I forget to get it a gift, it's that I want to find something PERFECT so I end up putting it off or not finding what I want until after the person's birthday passed. Is that possibly part of your issue? <br /><br />I keep a stock of cards at home, in a card box which helps me. When I remember I've already bought a card!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-20090808292029538842011-11-11T09:36:18.175-05:002011-11-11T09:36:18.175-05:00the google calendar thing has definitely been a li...the google calendar thing has definitely been a life saver. i have EVERYTHING in there, including an annual recurring reminder 1 week before everyone's bday to give me a heads up.<br /><br />(that means that about 1/2 the time i actually get around to buying a card... and about 1/2 the time i buy a card, i actually get around to sending it. AM SO BAD AT THIS.)Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15287792370490363047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-10632924299902594182011-11-11T09:17:12.677-05:002011-11-11T09:17:12.677-05:00Maybe make it your monthly goal, similar to your c...Maybe make it your monthly goal, similar to your charity efforts (but you wouldn't necessarily have to post it publicly). Think of a few months gifts in advance, then keep notes for the rest of the gifts. I also like to keep a google doc with gift ideas that I can add to throughout the year when I think of something that would be perfect for a friend or family member. <br /><br />I also like a lot of the other commenter's suggestions. I think you can do this!Andrea Stephensonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14434879950907571429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-13588274025141812912011-11-11T08:43:48.998-05:002011-11-11T08:43:48.998-05:00Some time last year I went through and added every...Some time last year I went through and added everyone's birthday to my google calendar, to repeat yearly, forever. It has been SO helpful in remembering birthdays (it emails me a reminder the day before).missrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03595843215458849973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-82644573721711948092011-11-10T23:38:05.862-05:002011-11-10T23:38:05.862-05:00Aren't most people inherently selfish? Isn'...Aren't most people inherently selfish? Isn't it just human nature?<br /><br />I'm that kind of person - "thoughtful". It's just who I am whether I want to be or not, which I think is part of it. You are who you are. I have friends who are NOT that kind of person and it doesn't make me like them less. I know that they love me even if they don't remember to send me a birthday card every year.<br /><br />If you really want to start, then do something simple as input the dates of your friends birthdays into your calendar and set a reminder for a week in advance, which gives you enough time to get a card if you haven't already. Call a friend to ask them to go to dinner at their favorite restaurant. Send a friend a card for no good reason at all. Start small and see what you can do. & if it doesn't work out to be your new "normal" I'm pretty sure your friends are still going to love you just as much.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-59866289857665885332011-11-10T21:33:46.018-05:002011-11-10T21:33:46.018-05:00I hear you, I'm terrible at stuff like that. M...I hear you, I'm terrible at stuff like that. Maybe start keeping notes on your phone (or a notepad in your purse, if you prefer) when people mention something they like so you remember after the fact?<br /><br />I had to start making a conscious effort a while back to ask my husband how his day was, isn't that terrible? It wasn't that I didn't care, it's just that somehow I never asked before he volunteered the information on his own.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13923283245460039075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-71187264592470562282011-11-10T20:26:39.965-05:002011-11-10T20:26:39.965-05:00If you figure it out, let me know. Is it an organ...If you figure it out, let me know. Is it an organization thing? I don't think so, b/c I'm very organized, but maybe I'm not the right kind of organized. I'm terrible at that stuff too and always wish I was better at it, especially when a friend demonstrates it for me, but have no idea how to develop that skill on my own.Mousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07363604587463028258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-7445044416184140532011-11-10T19:31:33.309-05:002011-11-10T19:31:33.309-05:00I used to be that thoughtful person...I don't ...I used to be that thoughtful person...I don't know what happened to her, though, because I rarely do those things anymore :-(<br /><br />I think I'll join you in this endeavor!<br /><br />I think picking one person per month and doing something nice for them might be a good way to start.Steviehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12153149217472000710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-14631586918056652352011-11-10T18:42:12.083-05:002011-11-10T18:42:12.083-05:00you are thoughtful! see your year of charity link...you are thoughtful! see your year of charity links :)silhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04513402186513892775noreply@blogger.com