due to my much-publicized dating foibles, i've been asked a number of times why i don't try eharmony. i've heard good things about the site - for example, that the people registered there are more serious about finding a relationship, and that there are a number of real success stories to have come from that site, etc.
that doesn't change the fact that i will never use eharmony, though.
some history: eharmony was founded by Dr Neil Clark Warren, a (formerly) vocal christian fundamentalist. he has deep ties to Focus on the Family, a right wing christian group that promotes marriage and family - e.g., marriage is the fundamental glue that holds society together, which inherently means that homosexuality is trying to ruin the moral fabric of our society. their website is full of helpful articles on how to "prevent" homosexuality in your kids, theories that homosexuality is the result of sexual abuse and masturbation, and the fascinating information that while AIDS wasn't necessarily sent here specifically to punish the gays, they do pretty much deserve it.
charming, no? in any event, Warren was a "longtime friend" of Focus on the Family's founder, James Dobson, and used FoF's wide-reaching popularity to initially promote eharmony to the christian market. he only distanced himself from Dobson's evangelical views once eharmony took off and he wanted to appeal to a broader customer base. (somewhat ironically, while Dobson and FoF initially appeared hurt that Warren dropped them like a hot potato, they're now quite anti-eharmony themselves because eharmony is no longer "christian enough.")
so while eharmony isn't just for conservative christians anymore - or even just for christians - it IS still just for heterosexuals. Warren has explained that all his "scientific research" into the dynamics of successful relationships has only been performed on straight couples, so he has NO IDEA if it would even WORK on those gay types! i mean, who KNOWS how their relationships work, am i right?! it would be CRAZY to think that matching them up based on values and intelligence would work like it does on normal people!!
eharmony has been sued twice due to this policy, and as a result of the NJ lawsuit they gave in and decided to provide their service for gay couples..... on a separate website. which remains faithful the ol' tradition of separate but equal, no doubt. (take a look at the two websites - compatible partners looks like a fake website front compared to the eharmony site, and includes a disclaimer that they've done absolutely no research into same-sex couples so WHO KNOWS if this will even WORK, GOD.)
ultimately, i'm not sure how i feel about the lawsuits - it is a private service that you have to pay to use, which i suppose gives you the right to accept or refuse money from whoever you want, even if does make you a bigot - but i do know that personally, i definitely have the right to boycott a site that is anti-gay.
in related news, there is a national equality march happening in dc on october 11th. hopefully i'll see some of you there :-)