tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post2265970584138142466..comments2024-01-01T03:49:58.702-05:00Comments on Alice's Wonderland: eharmony: i am not compatibleAlicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15287792370490363047noreply@blogger.comBlogger63125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-5432820076655205452009-12-24T14:15:30.431-05:002009-12-24T14:15:30.431-05:00I too hate E-Harmony
i my self am not gay but com...I too hate E-Harmony <br />i my self am not gay but completely support gay people <br /><br />the reason i despise E-harmony is this<br /><br />i went through there survey in an attempt to find a mate as im not the most social person in the world <br />and e-harmony was suggested to me as a way i could find someone <br /><br /><br />they sent me a message that they find im within the "10% of people who are completely incompatible" <br />sitting reasons of me being a controlling and violent individual<br /><br />ooooook...... <br />not only am i a complete pacifist but im also an ASPCA member <br />and could never hurt another living thing<br />and i have never ounce in my life tried to control another individual <br /><br /><br />so What the %#^@ are they talking about<br /><br />e-harmony was my last great attempt at finding someone and it went down as a fiery disaster <br />and feather blow to my willingness to even try to find a decent companion <br />thanks e-harmony for even feather heart ache in my lifeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-6012843742460443672009-08-25T13:40:12.650-04:002009-08-25T13:40:12.650-04:00This post is fucking awesome, Alice. I always knew...This post is fucking awesome, Alice. I always knew I didn't like eHarmony for a reason (mostly because I felt like they were trying to play the role of God in my dating life - ironic, no?). That's not entirely fair. I didn't like eHarmony because I wanted to have more control over my dating life. Now that I've read this post, I'm so glad I didn't put my dating life in the hands of crazed Christians. Who knows what kinds of freaks they would've found suitable for this Jew. hahaha.Nilsa @ SoMi Speakshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08474642034399063234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-68789774107141267482009-08-23T15:28:06.499-04:002009-08-23T15:28:06.499-04:00Alice, you rock. Really. you rockAlice, you rock. Really. you rockTitaniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01545746060811982263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-9132423026623410842009-08-23T15:18:15.568-04:002009-08-23T15:18:15.568-04:00@dc_publius - if you'll notice, this is not a ...@dc_publius - if you'll notice, this is not a treatise demanding eharmony allow gay people / shut down. obviously, if they want to be bigots, we do live in a free country, and you & eharmony are free to "encourage" fewer rights for gay people as much as you like. but this being a free country, i'm perfectly within my rights to not use a service that doesn't support gay rights, and i'm also allowed to tell people why i don't give them money.<br /><br />i'm not sure what the deal is with folks coming here and claiming that i'm being oppressive to someone's rights by voicing my opinion. you're allowed to come here and say you don't like homosexual relationships. i'm allowed to say i think that's dumb.Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15287792370490363047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-36067219751855104942009-08-23T12:16:56.844-04:002009-08-23T12:16:56.844-04:00"you've completely missed my point. if hi..."you've completely missed my point. if his methods are so fantastic, why deny them to gay people?"<br /><br />Maybe because he doesn't want to do anything to encourage homosexual relationships? I don't see what's wrong with that. This is supposedly a free country. People and private businesses should be able to discriminate in favor and against anybody they want. You may feel you's the epitome of tolerance, but you make judgments just like everyone else - maybe on looks or dress or education background or whatever instead of sexual orientation like the guy in question.dc_publiusnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-6195660023368918002009-08-21T00:30:20.750-04:002009-08-21T00:30:20.750-04:00Alice,
Another Swistle reader. I have only read tw...Alice,<br />Another Swistle reader. I have only read two posts and...well...I think I'm in love with you. Can we get eH to set us up? ;op<br /><br />In all seriousness, thank you for bringing this further into the light.HHRosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09834672126629579245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-27862909903893418932009-08-20T17:13:04.837-04:002009-08-20T17:13:04.837-04:00I think it's really cool that you don't up...I think it's really cool that you don't uppercase christian.<br />What's also really cool, I just discovered,is that when I type christian in lowercase blogger underlines it as if it were a spelling error.<br />Blogger? e-harmony? YIKES!Richard, DCnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-42616354721328529182009-08-20T09:23:32.132-04:002009-08-20T09:23:32.132-04:00When I first joined eHarmony, I decided something ...When I first joined eHarmony, I decided something was wrong with my profile because for some reason, they kept fixing me up with Bible-thumping "born again" Christians. (I have nothing against Christians, just the ones who believe that anyone who doesn't believe exactly as they do are lesser mortals). After much discussion and threats of getting my money back, they let me re-do the profile. And then they set me up with a cross-dresser. Apparently, he wasn't gay (because he wouldn't have been allowed!), he just dressed up in women's clothing and wore make-up! Nothing against transvestites (Eddie Izzard is my favorite), but I couldn't help but feel there was a little animosity in the selection. Needless to say, I cancelled my subscription and got my money back.Deenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-26290072612978622082009-08-19T20:36:56.300-04:002009-08-19T20:36:56.300-04:00It's such a shame that companies and individua...It's such a shame that companies and individuals continue to descriminate against so many people. I feel sorry for people filled with such hate.Jenniehttp://www.jybphotography.com/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-30166721128436003902009-08-19T16:44:31.379-04:002009-08-19T16:44:31.379-04:00@erica thanks for offering another voice (while be...@erica thanks for offering another voice (while being calm & respectful! i may just get some faith in the internet yet!)<br /><br />two points i'd make:<br /><br />a) while eH is a business, that still doesn't mean they can do ANYTHING they want. the lawsuits are actually based on breaking laws - eg, the state of CA has anti-discrimination laws for any businesses operating there, and refusing service to someone based on their sexual orientation is pretty clearly discriminatory. would you feel the same way if it was a fast food restaurant who wouldn't serve gay people? i mean, fast food isn't curing cancer either.<br /><br />b) i agree: everyone is entitled to use eharmony or not, based on personal preference. and as i've stated before in these comments, i'm giving my reasons for not using it, not trying to take down the corporation or something. but given my (obvious) strong stance on gay rights, i'm wondering what else WOULD be considered a valid reason to boycott a business...??Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15287792370490363047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-44213123013660128382009-08-19T16:40:49.831-04:002009-08-19T16:40:49.831-04:00Suddenly, all the eHarmony commercials make sense....Suddenly, all the eHarmony commercials make sense. Wow. I always wondered why they publicized the concept that everyone would want the same. exact. thing.Desiree Aubignyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18069602698405250674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-75464989117870218642009-08-19T15:57:34.751-04:002009-08-19T15:57:34.751-04:00I met my husband on eH five years ago. I recommend...I met my husband on eH five years ago. I recommended my dad try it when we was ready to get into a relationship after my mother died. He's been married to his eH "match" for two years. Her daughter just married her eH match a few months ago.<br /><br />For me, the site directed me to my soulmate whom I wouldn't have met otherwise. <br /><br />I don't believe that homosexuality is wrong or that gay marriage shouldn't be allowed. As a matter of fact, I'm a huge supporter of human rights across the board. <br /><br />I agree with the other commenters who stated that eH is a business and isn't obligated to offer matchmaking to the LGBT community. While that is a shame, it's not a reason to boycott them in my opinion. If they were a company offering life-saving medications and were denying homosexuals the right to use their service, that would be unbelievably wrong. Matchmaking isn't curing cancer. It's dates, for cry'n out loud. <br /><br />And, fwiw, I was in a lesbian relationship for seven years. I've experienced discrimination in every conceivable situation because I was in a gay relationship.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-24703071982317096982009-08-19T15:55:37.863-04:002009-08-19T15:55:37.863-04:00Amen, and applause. That's all I have to say.
...Amen, and applause. That's all I have to say.<br /><br />Well, that, and the EHarm/FotF types really need to re-read the Bible and take a look at the love/not-judging stuff in there. I mean, I'm just sayin'...Liz in...https://www.blogger.com/profile/08492236454746981747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-66613521394180471952009-08-19T15:05:32.619-04:002009-08-19T15:05:32.619-04:00I do have to give Alice props (does anyone really ...I do have to give Alice props (does anyone really say that anymore? I am so old) for keeping things really civil. Alice, you are hilarious - yes, it's so FUNNY when women wanted to vote! Silly us, with our OPINIONS! And those crazy black folks! What was that all about? <br /><br />As a Christ follower, I love all people, yes, gay people, too. Some of my absolute favorite people are gay! I want people to have the relationship they feel is best for them. I will support them and love them, because I feel strongly that's what I'm called to do. I want them in my church community (and not everyone in my denomination feels the same, which is very sad). I just really get tired of people haggling over what relationship is right and what isn't - we have bigger problems to solve, in my opinion. Let's feed hungry people, let's make sure they are healthy - let's not worry about who's sleeping with who.Samhttp://www.sundayschoolrebel.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-51916509473101867022009-08-19T15:03:27.765-04:002009-08-19T15:03:27.765-04:00I heard some weird things about Dr. Warren- thanks...I heard some weird things about Dr. Warren- thanks for setting the record straight.<br /><br />I admire your stand on an issue you care about, sounds like you are more of a Chemistry.com girl anywho.Dmbosstonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05631276118039762167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-75847920024109756502009-08-19T15:03:21.977-04:002009-08-19T15:03:21.977-04:00Thanks Alice for pointing out that if the word &qu...Thanks Alice for pointing out that if the word "black" was substituted for "gay" there'd be *crickets* in here.<br /><br />For every single repressed ignorant fool who distinguishes being gay as not being Christian I would like you to meet my partner of 5 years, a devout Christian. Thanks to your illogical rationale I can't hold her hand in public for fear she'll offend one of you bigots, or the bigots who parented you and taught you your repulsive knee jerk uninformed beliefs system, NOT validated anywhere in Christ's teachings.<br /><br />My father, grandfather, uncle, and all my ancestors going back to before the Revolution fought and died for this country, so you're welcome to your unequal rights which I cannot share. I hope every one of you is married to someone who makes you miserable every single day for the rest of you ignorance preaching lives.<br /><br />Christ said "Bring me the least of you"....he can have you. You folks need a saviour.<br /><br />None of this is directed at the good and decent people who posted on this site. I too follow the teachings of Christ, I just don't name drop him as a back-up for my insidious disregard for the feelings of others <-which is a "choice".Alyxmyselfnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-90017531309239183742009-08-19T14:58:11.152-04:002009-08-19T14:58:11.152-04:00Great post, Alice. And there's some great com...Great post, Alice. And there's some great comment dialog going on. I snorted at Velvet's comment!<br /><br />I've never had to use a dating website, but I certainly see no need for a service to discriminate. Good to know.Pocklockhttp://www.pocklock.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-6305572042788308802009-08-19T14:20:57.826-04:002009-08-19T14:20:57.826-04:00I had absolutely NO IDEA that eharmony was a Chris...I had absolutely NO IDEA that eharmony was a Christian company. Do they advertise that? I had no. idea.<br /><br />What with you being in tune with the older, naked, gay man I would have expected nothing less from you than to stand up and wave your PFLAG, sister.<br /><br />I agree that you handle these comments WELL and I appreciate respectful disagreement, too.<br /><br />It's just that when anyone (even NICE PEOPLE) come at me with the 'you choose to be gay' thing, my head double-explodes and I can't continue conversation.the new girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02947910641549198688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-40213695578075166152009-08-19T14:03:32.511-04:002009-08-19T14:03:32.511-04:00Alice you've expressed yourself in a clear &am...Alice you've expressed yourself in a clear & respectful fashion. What more can we ask for? Oh, for other haters to do the same...(:-D<br /><br />Good for you! I agree 100% with you & Swistle.Firegirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16174530557489715536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-317737582569259302009-08-19T13:53:52.255-04:002009-08-19T13:53:52.255-04:00Alice - I followed Swistle here, I am new to your ...Alice - I followed Swistle here, I am new to your blog but wanted to tell you that you've handled this topic and comments very well. <br /><br />Discrimination is never okay.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10120774715331922926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-54117520994311633622009-08-19T13:52:44.537-04:002009-08-19T13:52:44.537-04:00I have to chime in here with my own experience wit...I have to chime in here with my own experience with eHarmony. I talked a recently divorced friend into trying out the site...because NO WHERE in it's ads does it mention that it's a Christian dating service. They talk about the "scientific match process", Warren's research as a psychologist and counselor and their success rate. It wasn't until this poor guy spent 45 minutes filling out their insanely long form and it said there were no matches in a 60 mile radius that we did some more research. Turns out there are 100s of stories out there of people who paid the fee and had zero matches if they checked the "non-practicing" box under religion. So we re-did that section of the form (lying about his religious preference) and bingo - dozens of matches. He still didn't join because the service is obv not for him. But it would have been nice to know that before wasting the time.<br /><br />I personally think that their advertising is a sham - they should be up front and clear about the fact that they focus on matching practicing Christians. The fact that they refuse to match homosexual couples is a further nail in the coffin for this (Christian) girl. Thanks for sharing this great post...and great job with the comments!kakatyhttp://www.kakakakaty.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-34246459441924297692009-08-19T13:49:46.649-04:002009-08-19T13:49:46.649-04:00I filled out their whole survey and then was rejec...I filled out their whole survey and then was rejected at the end because at the time I was "legally separated" and not "divorced," a question that was asked on the FIRST PAGE of questions. You know, thanks for wasting my time, eHarmony. Now that I've read your post, I'm glad I wasn't accepted. As a pro-choice, pro-gay marriage, agnostic, it may have been tough going. I went with chemistry.com and was very happy with it. Also, thanks for having the 'balls' to write this. And then deal so well with all the comments.Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16209528382020993455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-88996901909180102912009-08-19T13:49:11.093-04:002009-08-19T13:49:11.093-04:00thanks, swistle, for getting me involved :)
how ...thanks, swistle, for getting me involved :) <br /><br />how can i not comment? the whole thing is totally absurd. kudos to you for keeping your cool and backing up your arguments. because honestly whoever up there is saying that homosexuality is a CHOICE makes me CRINGE. have they ever met and talked to gay person? do they honestly think someone would CHOOSE a life of constant struggle? my best friend is gay and i can tell you that if he could, he would most certainly choose to NOT to be gay.<br /><br />eHarmony should be ashamed of themselves.beanskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08014890461777724619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-65182103418316635892009-08-19T13:43:38.849-04:002009-08-19T13:43:38.849-04:00Props! This is exactly why I don't use that si...Props! This is exactly why I don't use that site, either.vaguehttp://zemblangrammar.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13000256.post-71045587251868383432009-08-19T13:30:50.205-04:002009-08-19T13:30:50.205-04:00Also, I can always tell what the churches are teac...Also, I can always tell what the churches are teaching on a subject, because it's what EVERY SINGLE PERSON says. "It's not that I'm against having a black president, I just don't think THIS one is the right one for the job." "Asking a dating service to provide dating services for homosexuals is like asking an ice cream shop to provide car repair." "I guess only people who don't discriminate against homosexuals are allowed to have their own opinions and feelings."Swistlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13126937282657655091noreply@blogger.com