match.com updates # 2 and #3: ...meh

i may not be good at finding the right relationship, but man, i'm freaking awesome at the first date. seriously. it's apparently a legitimate skill. like, some women can make their hair look like it doesn't belong to a homeless person. i'm still working on that one, personally. BUT, i give a darn good first date. i know this because no matter how i think the date went, and no matter what the guys ultimately decide about me, they almost always request a second date.

which is awkward, because i like approximately 1% of guys after the first date.

my two match dates this week were, to quote stefanie, perfectly nice men. nothing hilariously off, like with mr. suspicious; guys who i legitimately think i'd like to be friends with, but.. you know... just not guys i had any interest in making out with. i may give date #2 another chance, i haven't decided yet. i think guy #1 is out, though. aside from the DEFINITE no-desire-to-make-out issue, there were a few additional strikes against him:

*he comes from a SUPER DUPER religious family. he's the "black sheep" of his family, and broke from the uber-religion thing, but he described his family as akin to those in "jesus camp" and "saved." um, can you imagine me ever going back to meet that family? it would.. uh.. not go well.

*he's never been drunk. now, i know, this makes me sound like i'm an alcoholic and can only cavort with other lushes, but... i used to not drink. i know how people who don't really drink feel about people who DO get drunk. and they're not very flattering thoughts. i don't get fall-down drunk these days, but i do enjoy my beverages, and i don't need someone giving me that Disappointed Look every time i get tipsy.

*he asked me how come i'm still dating around, if i've already lived in DC for 6 years. uh, EXCUSE ME? just because i've lived in one location for a while i should have found a husband? i basically said that to him verbatim, after my eyes finished bugged out of my head. the poor boy backtracked like it was his job and said the question had come out wrong.. but he didn't really clarify, and did still want me to answer.

so tonight i need to email him back and decline the second date offer, which sucks. i hate doing that. stefanie - i think i need your tutorial on the "i'm just not feeling it" email :-) and for #2... in the course of writing this post, i've gone back and forth no less than four times on what i'm going to do with date #2. i think i'll go out with him again after thanksgiving and see if he can grow on me.

the rest of my weekend is refreshingly date-free. i'm going to the improv tonight to see a hypnotist, i'm hanging out with an airline buddy in town tomorrow afternoon, and going out to dinner tomorrow night with my college roommate and her husband. and hopefully sleeping a lot, because holy shit i am NOT capable of going out every night these days. i'm freaking exHAUSted.